1. We continue to commoditize our intimate erotic life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
We’ve all heard it before – sensuality sells. So the media continues to sell
\nit, isolating the orgasm from its context in advertising. A successful advertisement doesn’t sell an object –
\nit sells access. It says if you want access to the glamorous, carefree life the models on this billboard are living, buy
\nthis product.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
If you want access to fulfilling love making, you need this thing. So, fulfilling love
\nlife (specifically orgasm) becomes something we associate with a desirable, aspirational lifestyle. And if your love life
\nisn’t satisfying – if you aren’t having orgasms day and night – it’s because you’re
\nlacking in some other way. You haven’t earned access to this pleasure. When the idea of orgasmic potential is tied to
\nthe question of being adequate or successful, it becomes a source of self-doubt and stress. Talk about unnecessary
\nperformance anxiety.<\/p>\n
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2. We think one night stands with casual partners is helping us discover
\npleasure, but it’s hurting us instead.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Social media and dating apps like Tinder contribute to making hookup culture more and
\nmore socially normative. While these apps are wonderful tools through which to expand the dating pool and explore
\nsensuality without strings attached (we don’t recommend one night stands because it ruins the life force from our
\nbeing), but these shallow superficial instinctual encounters that lack love with parteners that are total strangers –
\nfor women, at least – don’t usually lead to orgasm. The International Academy of Sex Research presented
\nresearch demonstrating that a woman’s chances of reaching orgasm are diminished by half (at least) when she’s
\nhaving casual sex without reciprocal love, as opposed to when she’s involved into an intimate erotic and loving
\nrelationship with a committed lover.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
The reasons behind this include that women are less comfortable telling one night
\nstand’s partners what they want and need and that men are less invested in pleasing a one night stand partner than
\nthey would be with a person they’re emotionally invested in.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
We strongly recommend love making with transfiguration, love, consecration and erotic
\ncontinence for a profoundly fulfilled love life.<\/p>\n
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3. Unfortunately in our society women feel shame about not being able to have
\norgasms even if it’s rarely their own fault, and men feel shame (mostly because a serious lack of sexual education
\nand a genuine sincere interest about a woman’s way to feel an orgasm) about not bringing their lovers to having
\norgasms.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Results from a qualitative study of young adults by Salisbury and Fisher showed that the
\nmost common concern among both women and men is the impact that lack of female orgasm during sexual intercourse has on the
\nmale ego.<\/p>\n
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Stress, shame, and guilt are obstacles to mindful presence in every situation, and
\nespecially in this incredibly vulnerable context. Instead, both parties become absorbed with the self-critical thoughts in
\ntheir mind. Stress also kills libido. If our minds are not focused on pleasure, our bodies won’t be able to
\nexperience it. Our tissues become engorged and lubricated as a physical response to pleasure processed by our brains. If
\nwe’re not processing the cues our bodies send us, those changes won’t happen.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
The study also showed that male and female participants agreed that men have the
\nresponsibility to physically stimulate their female lover to orgasm, while women have the responsibility to be mentally
\nprepared to experience orgasm.<\/p>\n
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Basically, most women are trying to have an orgasm for the sake of their lover’s
\nego. And both partners are placing responsibility on the man to bring the woman to orgasm. That puts a lot of pressure on
\nboth women and men in the bedroom and keeps women from becoming fully erotically empowered.<\/p>\n
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4. Traditional sexual education and porn are opposite ends of the spectrum and
\ndon’t address the reality of erotic intimacy.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
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Traditional sexual education mainly focuses on contraception and prevention of disease,
\nentirely neglecting to address the details of women’s unique anatomy and vast potential for pleasure and
\norgasm.<\/p>\n
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So, usually where sexual education leaves off, porn steps in. Often, the way young people
\nlearn about sexual\/erotic experience is through pornography – a context in which pleasure is entirely separate from
\nemotional loving connection and tenderness. If pornography is the only tool someone has to learn about sexual\/erotic
\nexperience, their perception of it will be fundamentally inaccurate.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
To move toward a sexually empowered society, where women experience orgasm with the same
\nfrequency as men, we need to take the pressure off and make realistic sexual\/erotic education a priority. But it’s
\nnever too late. Everyone has room to grow and learn more about how to give and receive pleasure.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
Here are the secrets to unlocking infinite potential for pleasure that men and
\nwomen both need to explore.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
1. Awareness and presence:<\/strong><\/p>\n Presence, awareness, and a sense of physical and emotional comfort are crucial to erotic
\npleasure. Tapping into this mindset allows us to access new echelons of enjoyment. The tantric philosophy exists for
\nexactly this purpose: to help people access transcendent pleasure through presence.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
2. Anatomy lessons:<\/strong><\/p>\n Studies show that an understanding of the female sexual anatomy and how each part
\ncontributes to pleasure is directly correlated with the likelihood of female orgasm during lovemaking. It’s equally
\nimportant for men and women to learn the ins and outs (pun intended) of a woman’s pleasure potential and how to
\nawaken it.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
3. Communication and connection: <\/strong><\/p>\n People of both genders often rely upon assumptions about their lover’s preferences
\nand pleasure based on what they’ve seen or been told rather than communicating explicitly and verbally about
\ntheir pleasure. Instead of playing charades, they need to learn how to be communicative during lovemaking. Don’t be
\nshy.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
While we, as a society, work toward making holistic, high-quality sexual education
\nmainstream, women need to take control of their own sexuality and explore what makes them feel good. Normal is irrelevant.
\nNormal is overrated. Normal is a fiction. There is only you, your lover, and what gives you pleasure.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
So, here are a few more tips for the women:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n
1. Get to know yourself – intimately.<\/strong><\/p>\n You are capable of at least 11 different kinds of orgasms, thanks to your many erogenous
\nzones. Start by learning about the internal clitoris and the G-spot.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
2. Set aside time to cultivate your own eroticism. <\/strong><\/p>\n Begin a mindfulness practice (if you don’t have one already), and use it before and
\nduring you discover how to love yourself shamelessly. Remind yourself to breathe throughout. Staying relaxed and present
\nwill allow you to notice what types of touch bring you the most pleasure.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
Be open and curious about what happens, focusing on sensation instead of hunting for that
\norgasm. Trust your body to guide you and follow your pleasure.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
We strongly recommend to make a consecration to God of all the fruits of any action you
\nchoose to make regarding your erotic energy and that you always preserve your sexual potential trough erotic
\ncontinence. <\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
3. Share what gives you pleasure next time you make love with your lover, with
\nconsecration, transfiguration and erotic continence.<\/strong><\/p>\n Exploring your own pleasure is its own reward, but you deserve to benefit from your
\ndiscoveries when you are intimate with your lover. In the same way you’ve empowered yourself to experience erotic
\npleasure, you can empower your lover to become a perfectly erotic continent man by preserving his sexual potential.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
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