{"id":2250,"date":"2006-06-05T06:29:02","date_gmt":"2006-06-05T06:29:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dev.yogaesoteric.net\/yoga-en\/the-moral-code-and-ethics-in-yoga-1587-en\/the-art-of-saying-no-when-necessary\/"},"modified":"2006-06-05T06:29:02","modified_gmt":"2006-06-05T06:29:02","slug":"the-art-of-saying-no-when-necessary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yogaesoteric.net\/en\/the-art-of-saying-no-when-necessary\/","title":{"rendered":"The Art of Saying NO when necessary"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nby Gregorian Bivolaru <\/p>\n

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\n Yoga provides a large scope of ancient techniques, which can also be some means of de-conditioning and spiritual self-accomplishment of the human being. The positive suggestions here can be comprised in everyday life as a spiritual catalyser. If given thorough attention, no matter the order they are taken, they shall be utterly helpful in our de-conditioning process, which finally leads to an accelerating spiritual accomplishment.
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\n \"\"We sometimes do not understand that we literally get to live after we begin to firmly say \u201cno\u201d. For a yogi, \u201cNO\u201d means to deny all that is not real. Against all appearances, saying \u201cNO\u201d actually means to evince utmost kindness both towards the others and to ourselves. This sharp and plain attitude can spare us years and even a whole life of pain and misery, which we accept in equanimity.<\/p>\n

To say \u201cNO\u201d actually means to utter a steady \u201cNO\u201d to torpidity, to useless expectations, to malicious illusions, opinions, to negative conditionings, to hasty judgements, to stupid critiques, to forged culpability, to disturbances, fear, suspicion, jealousy, gossip and mechanic answers. In short, this means to withstand all evil.\u00a0To say \u201cNO\u201d also means unconditioned obedience and devotion towards God and spiritual detachment. <\/p>\n

\n To say \u201cNO\u201d actually means \u201cYES\u201d <\/strong>\n <\/p>\n

For \u201cNO\u201d is not necessarily a negativist, rejecting attitude, pointing an uptight and denying attitude. In certain conditions, when we are inspired by our intelligence and inner common-sense, this word actually means acceptance, opening, this is a mysterious door towards a superior reality, despite a conspicuous inferior illusion. Therefore, this \u201cNO\u201d actually is a double-edged attitude: one is to firmly say \u201cNO\u201d to an aspect that we deny, and the other is \u201cYES\u201d towards the aspect we accept. To set an example, we firmly say \u201cNO\u201d to disturbances, which implies \u201cYES\u201d to confidence; by denying jealousy, we thereby accept detached love.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\n \"\"Sometimes we say \u201cYES\u201d when we actually wish we said sharply \u201cNO\u201d: this is out of fear, frailty, and politeness or simply due to an awkward mechanical attitude, which we couldn\u2019t remove so far. In such case we should learn how to use the wasted time, in order to learn at least for the future how to say \u201cNO\u201d on first occasion. Sooner or later we shall do it, anyway; therefore why shouldn\u2019t we earlier? If we fail again to say \u201cNO\u201d, we shouldn\u2019t be surprised that we end up in bitter, grudge and useless humility, in the same state of apathy, stiff like robots. <\/p>\n

The ability of standing against some situations is not a negativist attitude in itself. When we firmly reject a bad situation, state or emotion, when we no longer accept to save evil thoughts and attitudes, \u201cNO\u201d gets a positive connotation. In a paradoxical way, at first sight, which basically is highly natural, uttering the firm \u201cNO\u201d at the right moment, we shall presently see inside of us increasing compassion, tolerance, humour and forgiveness towards the others and ourselves. Never is too late to say the firm \u201cNO\u201d. Be aware now that there is no friend of yours, no spiritual master or Guru to say \u201cNO\u201d for you. It is up to you to do it as quick as possible. From the spiritual evolution perspective, the word \u201cNO\u201d and the attitude it implies get the greatest importance for Yoga as any genuine spiritual path actually means the wish to know more, a specific spiritual opening and therefore the aspiration for a new reality connected to elevated states of consciousness. All these imply the constant skill in saying \u201cNO\u201d. <\/p>\n

\n We shall say \u201cNO\u201d to the old habits, paralysing prejudices, the clich\u00e9s and bad customs<\/strong>\n <\/p>\n

These will not be easily removed, for we nurtured and encouraged them to exist in our being for lives. The temptation will persist long time after, but we may say now that the presence of \u201cNO\u201d became essential to us. In such cases a volitive effort based on positive suggestion will allow us to firmly say \u201cNO, I shall no loger be prey to those awkward attachments; I shall not resume that bad habit\u201d, which may be helpful. The Guru (spiritual master) will be the pioneer, the \u201cYES\u201d bearer who will clearly show you the new stages to go through thereafter. But you are the only one to follow the way, to endeavour yourself by means of the say \u201cNO\u201d philosophy in order not fail again in the sorrowful condition that you have just escaped. To say \u201cNO\u201d may be the most positive thing in our life, but sometimes the most difficult, too.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\n \"\"There have been many references about the meaning of \u201cNO\u201d. But learning to actually say it in the right moment sometimes is a real art. This is a lesson to learn on his own. First, you must decide to do it, then it\u2019s a matter of succeeding it. Once we get here, many of us may wonder: how shall I learn to do this? First of all we learn to say \u201cNO\u201d by listening to our heart, which will disclose many mysterious reasons, unknown to our mind, yet. Our heart manifests inside of us the spiritual intuition, this is why it does not need any doctorate or titles of honour. It simply knows and promptly inspires us at the right moment. We just have to go beyond appearances and we shall joyfully notice there that we can see<\/strong>. This is the time we shall realise that this is God\u2019s inspiration, the being\u2019s self-accomplishment, the enlightenment, detachment, awakening, the intuition of truth, the integration and fulfilment. Then, we can say: \u201cI managed to say \u201cNO\u201d. <\/p>\n

\n Say \u201cNO\u201d may shock the others, and even shock yourself. <\/strong>\n <\/p>\n

This inner attitude can also wake you up, as an extraordinary inner cathalyser, in helping the others in order to make them help themselves.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Saying \u201cNO\u201d can be a real spiritual path for some people. And they may be right, indeed. Somewhere in the world, saying \u201cNO\u201d to the chaining illusion is called yoga, <\/strong>somewhere else it is zen<\/strong>; other would rather call it spiritual awakening. However, beyond all these, saying \u201cNO\u201d is exactly what it is: firmly saying \u201cNO\u201d.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Saying \u201cNO\u201d is also a process to mark the spiritual leap of life. One cannot say \u201cNO\u201d without constant focus.<\/strong> This also means not to take anything for granted and fully use one\u2019s brain to reject stupidity. When you say \u201cNO\u201d, no matter you don\u2019t realise it, there is lot of energy saved. Also you redeem and really overpass yourself. When you can firmly say \u201cNO\u201d, you instantly stop being a robot and start living for real. Some people would rather believe you do it out of cruelty, lack of compassion, malice and irresponsibility. But this should be no worry and we always must keep in mind that everyone has the great privilege of opinion. <\/p>\n

\n To say \u201cNO\u201d is the easiest thing in the world<\/strong>\n <\/p>\n

\n \"\"In order to learn how to say \u201cNO\u201d, many spiritual searchers join lots of games, schools or groups. Some of them start to change their names and wear so-called spiritual garments. Many of them think, or fall to passive conditioning that they are specially chosen, even when they are not that advanced, actually. Many of them are trapped in collecting and reading endless books, more or less elevated. Also, they might stubbornly attend various practices, which they mistake as spiritual due to their ignorance. When we are really determined to wake up, we may start by mocking at ourselves, the way we used to be. Then we become quiet aware that we joke at ourselves and than we may burst to cry or to laugh. Even if saying \u201cNO\u201d is the easiest way in the world, some people must resume it several times before succeeding in this matter. Some others simply go astray.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Later we shall succeed to laugh about it, to cry, to get detached for good or even to write a book. Also, we shall see that saying \u201cNO\u201d can completely change our life, by transfiguration and therefore it helps us see it sublime and wonderful. In such a moment we can choose whether to stay free or after a while we get back to turpitude. <\/p>\n

We can always make a choice, but the best choice and also the easiest is to carefully listen to your heart and act in common sense and wisdom. Then we shall be surprised to discover that all therapies and all spiritual books actually refer to this urge only: \u201cLearn how to say NO\u201d!<\/p>\n

Then we can laugh at all, or we can endeavour to share our secret to the others or to freely put across all that we want to do. Also we may decide thanks to this freedom not to do anything, just eat when we are hungry, drink when thirsty, sleep when feel tired, love when fall in love and firmly say \u201cNO\u201d when we feel like saying \u201cNO\u201d. <\/p>\n

\n It\u2019s up to you whatever you are doing or will do. The basic thing is that you must never forget that it\u2019s always up to you. For when you really ask it for, God always gives unto you, but when you don\u2019t do that He forces you to take WHAT YOU DESERVE ONLY.
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