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Intimacy is a key aspect of meaningful relationships that aspire to withstand the wear and tear of time. How does reciprocity influence this intimacy?<\/p>\n
Intimacy in relationships, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship, largely defines who you really are and what you really feel. Reciprocity consists of getting back what you put in. Unfortunately, there\u2019s certain emptiness and superficiality in this world along with emotional looters and enablers.<\/p>\n
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The best way to recognize an emotional looter is that they have nothing to offer when the lights go out, in nobody\u2019s eyes. In contrast, emotional enablers have roots that flourish in their bodies in memories that constantly feed them.<\/p>\n
The important aspect is that those who seek empty relationships don\u2019t drain others. Some people believe that only reciprocity can make intimacy possible. This is because they\u2019ve understood that it\u2019s the only aspect that remains in the end. \u201cIt\u2019s an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.\u201d \u2013 John Joseph Powell.<\/p>\n
Intimacy in relationships is about reciprocity<\/strong><\/p>\n Everyone\u2019s been told that they must respect themselves in order to be loved. Don\u2019t give too much and keep a few cards under the table, they say, hand it out in smaller pieces. However, many people will die being quite respectable and without knowing what love is about.<\/p>\n What this means is that there are no such rules when it comes to love. It isn\u2019t something you can program. Also, it isn\u2019t always fair. The quality of equity doesn\u2019t apply to love (or rather, in the art of loving). As you can see, there\u2019ll always be imbalances, and this is normal.<\/p>\n Furthermore, greed is the opposite of love. A person can greedily feed on others and loot and manipulate them. These types of people know exactly what they want and they suck the energy and life of others for their own personal aggrandizement. Greedy people wonder \u201cWhat can I get from others?\u201d whereas people who provide love ask themselves \u201cHow can I give more to others?\u201d<\/p>\n Intimacy in reciprocity is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable<\/strong><\/p>\n Most people get married and hope to share a life together, but in reality, 40-50% of those marriages will end in divorce. Moreover, stable marriages aren\u2019t necessarily happier. In other words, people stay in unsatisfying relationships for many reasons (children, finances, and religion). Thus, the question isn\u2019t about mere stability but about quality<\/u>. There are many emotional looters out there and people refer to them as \u201csignificant others\u201d.<\/p>\n How to build intimacy in relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n Each type of relationship needs certain nutrients in particular amounts. It usually depends on those who form it but also on the circumstances and the connection. These are a few aspects you can do to strengthen the intimacy of your relationship.<\/p>\n – Kindness is essential in any type of relationship and reciprocity gives value to kindness. Unpleasantness weakens relationships.<\/p>\n – Working on your relationship and doing your best. Recent research supports the idea that people who actively work on their relationships contribute to happy and long-lasting relationships (Ogolsky & Bowers, 2013).<\/p>\n – The types of behaviors reliably predict relationship success include expressing beneficial emotions, being open, giving relational assurances, using individual circles of support, as well as supporting points in one\u2019s relationship. Also, sharing the implicit responsibilities of a partner without too much conflict in a relationship that lasts over time.<\/p>\n – Unless it\u2019s important, let it go. In a recent study, researchers asked a sample of divorcees why their marriages failed. Participants cited frequent discussions as a major contributor, second only to infidelity (Scott, Rhoades, Stanley, Allen, & Markman, 2013). In fact, they described how an argument, initially unimportant, could end up being the beginning of a breakup.<\/p>\n – Show your love. Research shows that sincere and meaningful compliments can have a surprisingly powerful benefit to relationship satisfaction (Marigold, Holmes, & Ross, 2007).<\/p>\n – Re-commit every day. The emotional components of passion and intimacy are often the first to mention when people think of love. However, commitment is actually the number one predictor of relationship satisfaction, especially in long-term relationships (Acker and Davis, 1992).<\/p>\n Final notes<\/strong><\/p>\n Romantic relationships are dyadic interactions, and they\u2019re ever-changing and complex as such. There\u2019s a recipe for a successful marriage, it\u2019s only that it requires the will and ability to deliver, at least according to research.<\/p>\n \n yogaesoteric \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Intimacy is a key aspect of meaningful relationships that aspire to withstand the wear and tear of time. How does reciprocity influence this intimacy? Intimacy in relationships, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship, largely defines who you really are and what you really feel. Reciprocity consists of getting back what you put in. 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\nFebruary 24, 2021<\/strong><\/p>\n